Do any of the following apply to you and your partner?

Please note that this is not a test that gives a "yes" or "no" result. However, the following statements may help you understand the nature of the relationship.

• Have you become afraid of your partner?
• Have you been scared when he is under the influence of alcohol or drugs?
• Has your spouse tried to stop you from going where you want to go?
• Has he tried to prevent you from doing work, school, or hobbies?
• Does he order you around?
• Does he demand that you obey him?

• Has he/she said (directly or indirectly) that you can't survive without him/her?
• Has your partner been following you?
• Does your partner accuse you of being unfaithful?
• Is he critical of you, your friends and/or family?
• Has he said that "there's something wrong with you", even that you're "crazy"?

• Have you ever feared your partner under any circumstances?
• Does he get angry if you disagree with him or have a different opinion?
• Are things (e.g. the reason for an argument) usually your fault?
• Has he belittled you in front of others?
• Does he have control over your finances?
• Have you ever felt like you had to have sex to "please your partner?"

• Has your spouse intentionally destroyed your personal belongings?
• Has he threatened you with facial expressions, movements, or gestures?
• Has he threatened to harm you, himself and/or the children?
• Has he yelled at you and/or the children?
• Has he pushed/shoved you or hit you and/or the children?

• Has he or she hit/beat you and/or the children?
• Has he threatened to harm himself and/or take his own life?

This site strives to keep the text easy to read, which is why gender or sexuality is not always taken into account in the choice of words.