Please note that this is not a “yes” or “no” test. However, the following statements may help you understand the nature of the relationship.

Does any of the following apply? you and your partner?

• Do you dislike your spouse's family, friends, and coworkers?
• Have you found out how long your spouse stays in and out of work/school?
• Would you like to pick him up directly from work/school?
• Do you think your spouse's work or school is of little value?
• Do you feel like the children are stealing his attention away from you?
• Are you critical of your spouse's parenting methods?
• Do you ever criticize his clothing choices and appearance?
• Would you prefer just the two of you to be together without anyone else?
• Do you try to discourage your partner from seeing other people?
• Do you want to know everything about his/her ex?
• Do you want your partner to get rid of things related to past relationships?
• Do you accuse your partner of being unfaithful to you?
• Do you only have an overview of your finances and give money to your partner?
• Do you want to have an overview of your spouse's calls, emails, messages, letters, bank accounts, or the like?
• Do you ever humiliate your partner in front of other people?
• Have you intentionally destroyed his personal belongings?
• Do you think it is unnecessary for your spouse to get more education?
• Do you ever yell at him or call him names?
• Do you try to get your partner to participate in sexual activities that he doesn't care about?
• Have you ever tried to discourage your partner from going to the doctor alone?
• Have you ever threatened to use violence against your partner?
• Have you ever pushed your partner?
• Have you ever held, shaken, or hit your partner?

This site strives to keep the text easy to read, which is why gender or sexuality is not always taken into account in the choice of words.